Moving on from Toxic Friendships – By Brand Ambassador Shelby

“Losing friends left and right,
But I just send them love and light,
Good karma, my aesthetic ,
Keep my conscience clear,
that’s why I’m so magnetic Manifest it,
I finessed it Take my pen and write some love
That has to happen
Just like magic”

Okay, so who else is starting to fall in love with Ariana’s new album, too?!

But in all seriousness, these lyrics have really been resonating with me.
In the last month, I’ve let go of 3 friendships that were especially toxic. One in particular ended so horribly that it’s left me quite reclusive; it’s hurt me more than I anticipated considering I was the one ending the friendship.

But despite those hurt feelings, I’ve done my best to remind myself that it’s okay to end a friendship that isn’t mutually beneficial. A friend should be someone who lifts you up when you’re down, pushes you to be your best and loves you despite all of your short comings.

When I had finally confronted this friend about the hurtful things she was doing, it was quickly met with anger and inevitably, her saying things she knew would hurt me. At first I took it really personally and if I’m being honest, it still really bothers me! However, now I’m realizing that it’s not okay to react that way when confronted on hurtful behaviour. I wasn’t a mean or horrible person for taking my own mental health into account, and ending that friendship.

It’s okay to let go of those who don’t fit the criteria that’s needed in your life. Listen to your intuition. It’s the people you’re surrounding yourself with after all! It might really hurt at first. Then send them love n’ light and grow!

– Shelby

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